So I was reading a journal on a fiend's FA page talking about all the negative feelings people seem to get around Valentine's Day, about how people are posting journals saying it's a terrible holiday and they hate it and the like. It made me think of a few things. Maybe it's my priorities and my interpretation of the meaning of Valentine's Day, but anyway, this way my post on her journal (with a few additions), and I felt like sharing it.
I happen to like Valentine's day, even when I was single (in fact, this is the first Valentine's Day I'm spending with someone in like 10 years maybe). All the same, I view it more as a day where people go out of their way to be nice and loving to someone else, because it seems like nowadays there has to be an excuse to do this kind of thing.
I can agree that the commercials get cheesy and such, but no more than Christmas commercials or Halloween ads. And I agree it gets kinda gross to see couples being so overly lovey-dovey in public; PDA make me self-conscious, and I get second-hand embarrassment from watching it. Everything is geared at couples and engagements and cuteness and pink.
So, I can totally understand how people without someone to spend it with could find it a terrible holiday that rubs it in their faces, but I'd prolly bet money on the fact that if they were spending it with someone, they'd have a totally different attitude about it.
I wonder why those who are single don't jus celebrate it by showing random acts of kindness to strangers. Like get a cheap box of cards and jus write kind things in them and pass them out to someone who looks down. Or give away Hershey's kisses (cheaper and less work for those that are lazy like me). You'd be surprised how the little things can put a smile on people's faces. You may even make a friend or meet a special someone out of the deal. There is no reason why this holiday can't be a good one for everyone, single or not, and there sure as hell isn't enough love in the world out there.
Plus, chocolate <3
I think people need to stop being so negative about everything. Don't use a holiday focused on love (yes, even commercial and cheesy love) to be hateful to others. If you don't wanna be kind and loving to others, don't do anything. Spreading negativity just because you're grouchy doesn't help you or anyone else. If things suck, do something to make them better rather than wallow in it, ya know?
Thursday, January 31, 2013
Tuesday, January 22, 2013
Weird Dream I Had
"We are the whispers and keepers of secrets."
The only dialogue I remember of it.
The scene was one of sleep, I was watching myself from outside my body. I couldn't see who spoke these words, but I could feel it, a thousand whispers tickling the inside of my skull around my ear, making me cold.
I'm not sure what it (or I guess they) wanted, but the feeling was unmistakable yet indefinable. Touch without tangible essence, concentrated cold under the weight of no weight.
It was so odd. Like a dream of the sensation of restless sleep, but no tossing or turning for fear of disturbing the disquiet. Why there was a fear of ending it, your guess is as good as mine. Maybe something inside me sensed hostility from that thing breathing emotionless nothings into me. Just as likely not.
Can't shake that feeling though.
The only dialogue I remember of it.
The scene was one of sleep, I was watching myself from outside my body. I couldn't see who spoke these words, but I could feel it, a thousand whispers tickling the inside of my skull around my ear, making me cold.
I'm not sure what it (or I guess they) wanted, but the feeling was unmistakable yet indefinable. Touch without tangible essence, concentrated cold under the weight of no weight.
It was so odd. Like a dream of the sensation of restless sleep, but no tossing or turning for fear of disturbing the disquiet. Why there was a fear of ending it, your guess is as good as mine. Maybe something inside me sensed hostility from that thing breathing emotionless nothings into me. Just as likely not.
Can't shake that feeling though.
Monday, January 7, 2013
Sleep Paralysis
It happened again today O_O
I was taking a nap while waiting for work to pick up a little bit, and set an alarm for 9:50 since I had to meet a prof at 10 to discuss scheduling. The alarm went off, and I hit snooze and leaned my head back in my chair and it hit, all at once.
Couldn't move my hands as much as I tried, couldn't move my head or neck which was starting to hurt, couldn't lean forward, couldn't raise my arms, couldn't make a sound.
Then suddenly it felt like I was surrounded by invisible people, like I could feel the weight of the air pressing my sides and the tops of my head and shoulders. Then the noise started. My brain knew the room was silent, but I began hearing hundreds of voices talking at once, like in a stadium or auditorium. A very loud murmur that steadily rose in volume until it seemed to fill the room.
I wanted to yell for help but sound refused to escape my mouth, and I was alone anyway so who would hear?
I began attempting to turn my head to the side, and it felt like it was made of lead and it hurt my neck to move it. But I kept turning, slowly and slowly, and suddenly, like someone flipped a switch, it all just stopped. My head moved easily, my fingers would bend, I could move my shoulders.
I had a killer headache afterwards.
The kicker? It felt like it lasted half an hour. It only lasted one minute.
One terrifying minute.
Does this happen to anyone else?
I was taking a nap while waiting for work to pick up a little bit, and set an alarm for 9:50 since I had to meet a prof at 10 to discuss scheduling. The alarm went off, and I hit snooze and leaned my head back in my chair and it hit, all at once.
Couldn't move my hands as much as I tried, couldn't move my head or neck which was starting to hurt, couldn't lean forward, couldn't raise my arms, couldn't make a sound.
Then suddenly it felt like I was surrounded by invisible people, like I could feel the weight of the air pressing my sides and the tops of my head and shoulders. Then the noise started. My brain knew the room was silent, but I began hearing hundreds of voices talking at once, like in a stadium or auditorium. A very loud murmur that steadily rose in volume until it seemed to fill the room.
I wanted to yell for help but sound refused to escape my mouth, and I was alone anyway so who would hear?
I began attempting to turn my head to the side, and it felt like it was made of lead and it hurt my neck to move it. But I kept turning, slowly and slowly, and suddenly, like someone flipped a switch, it all just stopped. My head moved easily, my fingers would bend, I could move my shoulders.
I had a killer headache afterwards.
The kicker? It felt like it lasted half an hour. It only lasted one minute.
One terrifying minute.
Does this happen to anyone else?
Friday, January 4, 2013
The Values of People
A Facebook post from a friend of mine about the concept of friend-zoning got me thinking about a few things, explicitly how people measure and view the value of others.
As most know, I have little to no faith in the human race as a whole, so know that this is not directed towards anyone. Just me expressing some curiosities.
So as you know, friend-zoning is the phenomenon that happens when two people are friends for a long time, and when one pops in with the idea of getting serious, he/she gets turned down because he/she is "a nice guy but just a friend." The one friend-zoned is labeled as pathetic by society, while the one friend-zoning is labeled a shallow person for not liking the "nice guy."
One thing this made me think about is the person who gets labeled the terrible person for not liking the nice guy. For these purposes, I'll use she, since the media generally portrays friend-zoning as a phenomenon of heterosexual relationships in which the girl is doing the friend-zoning. From what I can tell, during the friending process, she's labeled a sensible person for being friends with such a great guy, but as soon as she confesses that she doesn't have romantic feelings for him, she's suddenly some heartless person that's playing with people's feelings. Suddenly she's viewed as "not worth it" by the guy's friends, when just before the confession, all of them loved her. To the guy, she's becomes a bitch when she was once worth doing anything for. Am I the only one who has seen this or is this actually rare?
It makes me wonder why her value has suddenly decreased because she doesn't think of her friend romantically or doesn't want to get serious. Sure, they have a lot in common, like a lot of the same things, spend a lot of time together, etc. They should if they're friends in the first place. So just because the guy is interested, she's supposed to be as well; and if not, she's worthless? Was she actually setting out to deceive him or are there just a lot of butt-hurt feelings floating around?
I feel like it should be okay for the two of them to be close, for her to be able to not have romantic feelings for him, and it not decrease the value of either of them. She can be funny and awesome to hang out with. He can be cute and smart and charming. She can still not be interested, and that should be okay, right? It should be fine for both of them to be total catches and one not be interested in the other, shouldn't it? Or am I just silly for assuming that a girl should get a say in the matter?
On a tangent, I feel like it's crap to become friends a person with the interest of becoming more with them, especially if you don't tell them about your schemes. I feel like to do so is deceiving, and I feel like it's legit to turn that kind of thing down. It's a terrible method of persuasion that most definitely will lead to this phenomenon. People should be friends to be friends, and if it becomes something more than that, my above rant applies. If you want a relationship, it should be stated out front. Guess I'm a sucker for efficiency, but I just get so sick of people tip-toeing around each other, wondering why nothing is happening they way they want it to. I've got a secret: no one is gonna know for absolute certain that you like them, unless you tell them. Mind = blown. There's too much asking each others friends, trying to judge from across the room, peaking from the corner of your eye going on to get anything done. The quickest way to figure out if someone likes you is to ask. The quickest way to get your feelings across is to say them.
"But, Deer-Skunk," you might say, "what happens if they don't like me back?"
Nothing, until you make a decision. You can choose to do nothing, at which point you existence goes on exactly as it was going, and you're no worse off than before but for a shot to the self-esteem. Or, you can choose to attempt to woo said person. If he/she still says no, move on and your existence goes on exactly as it was going, and you're no worse off than before but for a few shots to the self-esteem. If he/she says yes, huzzah, you've accomplished your goal. Congratulations.
On an even farther tangent, there is a commercial out now for some toothpaste where a girl sees a guy she likes and instantly begins picturing her future house, two cars, 2.5 kids and dog. That commercial makes me mad. She knows nothing about this guy, except that he's pretty. Call me old-fashioned (and a little feminist, I guess), but I see this as an insult. Don't get me wrong, it's fine to assess the guys appearance. I just hope most women would attempt to hold a conversation with this guy before she begins picturing their kids together. You know, find out if you could even foster a friendship with this guy, let alone a marriage.
Guh, I think as a whole I'm just tired of people being people. It happens. I realize I'm ranting a lot here. It may not make sense. I'm tempted to not even see if it flows....feeling lazy. Thoughts on any of it?
Also sorry, pony memes are good for this. I will publicly state that I am not a bronie, though I do enjoy the show. There, I said it. Lauren Faust, you're awesome!
Come at me, bro.
As most know, I have little to no faith in the human race as a whole, so know that this is not directed towards anyone. Just me expressing some curiosities.
So as you know, friend-zoning is the phenomenon that happens when two people are friends for a long time, and when one pops in with the idea of getting serious, he/she gets turned down because he/she is "a nice guy but just a friend." The one friend-zoned is labeled as pathetic by society, while the one friend-zoning is labeled a shallow person for not liking the "nice guy."
One thing this made me think about is the person who gets labeled the terrible person for not liking the nice guy. For these purposes, I'll use she, since the media generally portrays friend-zoning as a phenomenon of heterosexual relationships in which the girl is doing the friend-zoning. From what I can tell, during the friending process, she's labeled a sensible person for being friends with such a great guy, but as soon as she confesses that she doesn't have romantic feelings for him, she's suddenly some heartless person that's playing with people's feelings. Suddenly she's viewed as "not worth it" by the guy's friends, when just before the confession, all of them loved her. To the guy, she's becomes a bitch when she was once worth doing anything for. Am I the only one who has seen this or is this actually rare?
It makes me wonder why her value has suddenly decreased because she doesn't think of her friend romantically or doesn't want to get serious. Sure, they have a lot in common, like a lot of the same things, spend a lot of time together, etc. They should if they're friends in the first place. So just because the guy is interested, she's supposed to be as well; and if not, she's worthless? Was she actually setting out to deceive him or are there just a lot of butt-hurt feelings floating around?
I feel like it should be okay for the two of them to be close, for her to be able to not have romantic feelings for him, and it not decrease the value of either of them. She can be funny and awesome to hang out with. He can be cute and smart and charming. She can still not be interested, and that should be okay, right? It should be fine for both of them to be total catches and one not be interested in the other, shouldn't it? Or am I just silly for assuming that a girl should get a say in the matter?
On a tangent, I feel like it's crap to become friends a person with the interest of becoming more with them, especially if you don't tell them about your schemes. I feel like to do so is deceiving, and I feel like it's legit to turn that kind of thing down. It's a terrible method of persuasion that most definitely will lead to this phenomenon. People should be friends to be friends, and if it becomes something more than that, my above rant applies. If you want a relationship, it should be stated out front. Guess I'm a sucker for efficiency, but I just get so sick of people tip-toeing around each other, wondering why nothing is happening they way they want it to. I've got a secret: no one is gonna know for absolute certain that you like them, unless you tell them. Mind = blown. There's too much asking each others friends, trying to judge from across the room, peaking from the corner of your eye going on to get anything done. The quickest way to figure out if someone likes you is to ask. The quickest way to get your feelings across is to say them.
"But, Deer-Skunk," you might say, "what happens if they don't like me back?"
Nothing, until you make a decision. You can choose to do nothing, at which point you existence goes on exactly as it was going, and you're no worse off than before but for a shot to the self-esteem. Or, you can choose to attempt to woo said person. If he/she still says no, move on and your existence goes on exactly as it was going, and you're no worse off than before but for a few shots to the self-esteem. If he/she says yes, huzzah, you've accomplished your goal. Congratulations.
On an even farther tangent, there is a commercial out now for some toothpaste where a girl sees a guy she likes and instantly begins picturing her future house, two cars, 2.5 kids and dog. That commercial makes me mad. She knows nothing about this guy, except that he's pretty. Call me old-fashioned (and a little feminist, I guess), but I see this as an insult. Don't get me wrong, it's fine to assess the guys appearance. I just hope most women would attempt to hold a conversation with this guy before she begins picturing their kids together. You know, find out if you could even foster a friendship with this guy, let alone a marriage.
Guh, I think as a whole I'm just tired of people being people. It happens. I realize I'm ranting a lot here. It may not make sense. I'm tempted to not even see if it flows....feeling lazy. Thoughts on any of it?
Also sorry, pony memes are good for this. I will publicly state that I am not a bronie, though I do enjoy the show. There, I said it. Lauren Faust, you're awesome!
Come at me, bro.
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